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Facts about Women in Mourning 100 Years Ago

*Etiquette of the Times
Dress the Deceased Simply and Use Flowers Sparingly.

A Widow should be in morning for 18 months. She must be dressed in black, of a dead hue , not a lively blue black.

The Widow's veil is made out of black crepe and is worn very long.
Mourning Period for Parents is one year..

A veil is worn, but not over the face as the Widow's veil.

Mourning for a sibling, stepparents, or grandparents is almost the same as for your parents, but the mourning period can be shorter.

Mourning for an aunt or uncle is 3 months.

 Wives and husbands wear mourning for the relatives of their spouses.

Morning for children would be nine months.

Prior to the late nineteenth century, most Americans viewed dining as a utilitarian duty characterized by common “meat and potato” dishes and complemented by little, if any, polite conversation.

With the boom in industrialism and the sudden growth of the middle class in the 1880s, America's interest in social etiquette rose dramatically.
Consisting of two separate publications,The Ladies' Handbook and Household Assistant (1886) and Short Hints on Social Etiquette (1887),The Ladies' Etiquette Handbook can be read as a testament to the growing division between social classes and, at the same time, as a reflection of the middle class' overwhelming desire to cross social lines through the graces of etiquette.

Written by a Methodist women's church group in Manchester, New Hampshire, The Ladies' Handbook and Household Assistant provides advice on subjects such as church etiquette and the proper handling of cutlery as well as recipes for the socially active household.

Short Hints on Social Etiquette, published as a promotional piece by a Philadelphia soap manufacturer, including descriptions of lavish meals, advice on proper word pronunciation, and illustrations of tasteful calling cards,strives to bring “aristocratic” values into the “republican” home.

The foreword by Kenneth Cmiel, professor of history at the University of Iowa, provides an overview of the historic and social trends leading up to the publication of both handbooks and traces the creation and ultimate development of modern social etiquette.
The Ladies' Etiquette Handbook:
The Importance of Being Refined in the 1880s

Family Life in 19th-Century America

Nineteenth century families had to deal with enormous changes in almost all of life's categories.

The first generation of nineteenth century Americans was generally anxious to remove the Anglo from their Anglo-Americanism. The generation that grew up in Jacksonian America matured during a period of nationalism, egalitarianism, and widespread reformism.

Finally, the generation of the pre-war decades was innately diverse in terms of their ethnic backgrounds, employment, social class, education, language, customs, and religion.

Americans were acutely aware of the need to create a stable and cohesive society firmly founded on the family and traditional family values.

Yet the people of America were among the most mobile and diverse on earth. Geographically, socially, and economically, Americans (and those immigrants who wished to be Americans) were dedicated to change, movement, and progress.

This dichotomy between tradition and change may have been the most durable and common of American traits, and it was a difficult quality to circumvent when trying to form a unified national persona.

Volumes in the Family Life in America series focus on the day-to-day lives and roles of families throughout history.

The roles of all family members are defined and information on daily family life, the role of the family in society, and the ever-changing definition of family are discussed. Discussion of the nuclear family, single parent homes, foster and adoptive families, stepfamilies, and gay and lesbian families are included where appropriate.

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The 19th century was the golden age of private life, a time when the tentative self-consciousness of the Renaissance and earlier eras took recognizable form, and the supreme individual, with a political, scientific and above all existential value, emerged.

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To prevent Burying a Loved One Alive*

Since there are no reliable methods for determining death and since new chemical and industrial methods of putting people in comas are multiplying in society, the fear of burial alive is very real. There have been reports of corpses exhumed with hair an nails grown long and fingernail scratches in the coffin lid.

The reader is directed to a recently patented improved burial case.

The nature of this invention consists in placing on the lid of the coffin, and directly over the face of the body laid therein, a square tube, which extends from the coffin up through and over the surface of the grave, and said tube containing a ladder and a cord, one end of said cord being placed in the hand of the person laid in the coffin and the other so that, should a person be interred before life is extinct, he can, on recovery to consciousness, ascend from the grave and the coffin by the ladder, or, if not able to ascend by said ladder, ring the bell, thereby giving an alarm and thus save himself from premature burial and death.

And, if on inspection, life is extinct, the tube is withdrawn, the sliding door closed, and the tube used for a similar purpose.
*from "Keeping Hearth and Home " Long out of Print.

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History students and Victorian enthusiasts looking for comprehensive information on dining practices of Victorian America will find this book a vital resource.

Revealing the history of 19th-century dining, clothing, and etiquette, the volume includes sample menus and explicit instructions explaining how to recreate a dinner, tea, breakfast, or lunch in the 21st century.

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